My Word For 2018
I am going to be 100% honest that I have never been one for New Year Resolutions. I feel like it encompasses too much the mentality of "on Monday, I'll start (fill in the blank)". How often do we create a resolution in January only to find come March, even February we have seemed to abandon it along the road, caught back up in the hum drum of life. For me personally, these January resolutions are more band wagon ideas. Everyone else is doing so why shouldn't I?
The definition of a resolution is to make a firm decision to do or not do something. Firm. Meaning unwavering, unfaltering, steadfast. For me, if I am going to make any "resolution" I need it to be a heart and mind decision, firmly planted in my desire to strive for growth and not just something to add to my already full laundry list of areas that I feel like I am failing.
When I met my bestie back in middle school, she inspired me to strive for greatness in a lot of different things. One thing that I admired about her was that every year in January she picked a word to live out for the new year ahead. And in the past eleven years that I have known her she has never failed to pick a word, stick to it, and then reflect on it at the end of the year.
Well this year I was inspired to do the same thing. Alex and I sat down on New Years Eve and talked about what we wanted our word to be for this year. We looked back on the past year and realized that while we were incredibly busy, went on lots of adventures, and built lots of relationships, we struggled with intentionality. So, we decided our word for this year would be
As we talked and reflected, we realized that we were really good about "doing" but not good about having the heart behind what we were doing. Sometimes we get so caught up in just going through the motions that we don't stop, slow down, and be intent on the people we are with or the projects we are engulfed in. Even more than that, we spend more time with each other than any other people in our lives, but we realized that we were really bad about spending intentional time together.
That night, as we sat and talked for two hours, no distractions, nothing pressing to get done, we accomplished so much. We set goals, we dreamed, we learned about each other, and we took steps forward in our marriage and it was the best two hours we had spent together in a long time.
The most important relationship I have aside from my relationship with Jesus is my marriage with Alex, and it is too often that I let things that are unimportant get in the way of that. Our friends, family, our youth kids, our sweet pup- people that deserve our intentional time and effort.
On the last day of each month, Alex and I sit down and do our budget. We talk about how the month went, where we overspent and where we had some wiggle room. We then adjust our next months budget based on what we have coming up, and what happened in the previous month. It's a time that we are so intentional about and remain uninterrupted for. So we decided to do a monthly check in on our word as well. We want to take time to see where we were intentional and were we have room to grow. Our hope is that as we continue to go through the year, it will become easier and easier to be intentional about our time and our relationships.
So here's to more road trips, date nights, camping trips, hikes, long talks in front of the fire, and falling more in love.
Here's to more game nights, family dinners, outings with friends. long walks with Harley, coffee dates, and building stronger relationships with our friends and family.
Cheers to a year of intentionality, and all that comes with it.